Friends of both genders tell that their experiences have been hard in different ways.
” Or should I say, “I get really clingy around month three and it scares guys off, so here I am, solo!But here's the thing: These messages should upset me—and they should upset everyone.The fact that I laughed and moved on is a testament to how riddled with troubling behavior the world of online dating has become. It feels different, because it feels more like I’m rejecting a person, well, personally, rather than saying they aren’t the right fit or we had more qualified applicants. I do indeed think the etiquette for rejection in different in these two situations: It’s much more acceptable not to reply to messages from would-be suitors on online dating sites than it is for employers not to reply to job applicants.I also think I would get more pushback of the kind hiring managers sometimes get when we reject an applicant. Part of it is just a difference in conventions — the professional conventions for hiring are different than the conventions for online dating.